Postmodern Worship?

I know I'm behind the curve on this one, but I'm at a bit of a crossroads. I don't know whether to continue doing worship the way I have or if I should change. Here's the situation:

I get frustrated with worship on the radio for several reasons. The one that applies here is that it all sounds the same. It has been my goal to take songs and personalize them along with the bands I'm playing with; I don't want to sound like something "regurgitated from the Nashville machine." I feel as a musician (and perhaps as someone who listened to Limp Bizkit's cover of George Michael's "Faith" in my formative years) that it's really important to take songs and make them our own because it gives the song real meaning rather than repeating someone else like a robot. To do anything else would be the antithesis of creativity, which is death to a musician (I really don't like the term "artist") and a disservice to the innate abilities God has given us.

On the other hand, these songs have meaning for thousands (millions?) of people regardless of whether they're generic or "cutting edge." Changing a song that means so much to someone is a disservice to them and could quite possibly hinder their worship (trust me, I've been a part of that before). We try to justify "updating" old hymns or altering newer songs by saying "the meaning is in the words, anyway," but that's not true. The meaning is in the melody, in the rhythm, in the harmonies. The meaning is really in the people.

The reason that I want to change a song is the same reason someone else is offended when I do it: the song's personal meaning is altered. On the one hand, I want to argue that changing the song creates a new opportunity for worship--a fresh encounter with God. On the other hand, there's a reason why "Amazing Grace" is played on bagpipes at so many funerals rather than being read aloud.

I want to say that being sensitive to the needs of others is the answer, but it's not. Someone will always be bored, be offended, be invigorated, be convicted, be challenged, be alienated, be drawn in. In a church so focused on every individual's personal relationship with God, how does corporate worship work at all? Does it? The Holy Spirit moves and unifies the voice of thousands, but there were scoffers even at Pentecost. As a congregant, my focus is but twofold; I have two questions to ask myself: (1) "am I really worshipping?" and (2) "is my mode of worship going to cause someone else to stumble?" As a leader or member of a worship team , I have to ask myself those, but there are others. "Am I worshiping alone or am I leading others into the throne room?" "Am I doing my best to lead worship in a way that is inviting to the most people possible in this congregation?"

It's this last question I'm struggling with right now.